One of the most motivating powers in life is this – the power
we all have to inspire and connect with others. Even just by reading this, you
are part of an inspiring process; working towards overcoming the darkness of
eating disorders. Your awareness is a show of strength; it means so much more
than any number, figure, weight or measurement.
Take one of your hands and hold it in the other. Here you bring together the tools capable of
so much; unlocking opportunity and powering progress. Think of all they have
experienced, how they form part of the memories they will go on to share with
others. Your skin may be warm, cold, tense, dry – but either way it is alive.
Feel the power of not just potential, but your life. Living and inspiring are
two things we all capable of. And I want to do this too – without an eating
disorder telling me it is otherwise.
Thank you
Thank you for the amazing response to my decision to blog
about my eating disorder recovery. I am touched by your support – whether you
send a message or even just take the time to read, it is a form of engagement
and adding to the inspiration.
I felt like an empty hand reaching out into a darkness. Yet
what you have helped me to realise is that recovery is in my grasp.
The Doctors
Do you know how weak
you are?
That is the kind of outcome I am expecting on going to the
doctors. They will draw attention to the low BMI, the hair loss, the bleeding
gums and jutting bones. I have sores on my back from the pressure and now sit
for hours struggling to string sentences together on my laptop, when it would
have taken me minutes before. This is physical weakness – and I want the doctor
to tell me that it can’t go on.
The physical weakness
cannot go on, but now the strength starts.
Do you know how much
power you have? YES
Today is the day of my first doctor’s appointment since
being honest about my eating disorder.
Honesty is an important factor here; as over the years the eating disorder
has turned me into a marvellous liar – including lying to myself. I have told
people I am readily ‘fine’, that I have eaten elsewhere, am busy; anything to
avoid situations out of my usual routine with food. I have told myself that
this the way to be streamlined, clean, efficient. Sounds quite clinical don’t
you think? Cold.
I know that I need to move away from this clinical, hard-cut
attitude towards myself; it is indeed cold. Yet I have also had some ‘cold’ encounters
with medical professionals in the past – particularly GPs – some who have
seemed disinterested, even frustrated. Even amongst medical circles there can
seem a crucial lack of compassion when it comes to eating disorders – the
highly false stereotypes that they are a ‘situation’ or ‘phase’, something
selected.
I certainly would not select a life like this; a life forced
to a precarious balance between consumption on output. I can only eat so much
of foods I deem ‘efficient’, I drive myself to write, to work, more and
more. The eating disorder seeks to ‘streamline’
me into ‘success’ accompanied by elaborate routines of exercise. For so long I have been living ‘a life’ the
eating disorder has driven. Not MY life.
I wonder if the doctor will see beyond the ‘success’ and
realise the growing sense of panic, anger, fear.
“You’re not thin enough”
That’s a phrase I fear. It’s the phrase many people fear
when going to seek professional help. It seems like the conformation that you
have not even ‘achieved’ being ill enough.
But I am determined to approach my appointment with an open
mind – just as I am going to address my skewed perception of ‘success’ and ‘achievement’.
I don’t know whether going to the doctors
will be either of these things; but I what I know deep down is this - that it
is progress.
If anything, going back to the doctor is progress because it
a step in putting me in touch with reality, rather than the routine of
disorder. Eating disorders drive denial and
self-isolation and I am fighting back. I’m putting one of my hands in the other
and feeling the life pass through it.
Feel the heat move
slowly between your hands... human touch matters; and in more ways than one. Physical
or digital, public or private, we all have the power to reach out.
And I’m reaching out.
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